Written by Alice Bell
What happens when you become the one doing the ghosting?
I promised myself 2017 would be the year I put myself first, the year I permanently deleted my Bumble and Tinder accounts and stopped measuring my self worth based on whether a guy liked me or not. True to form, I have yet to put any of these resolutions into practice.
Just the other day I stayed up into the wee hours of the morning frantically searching Google for answers to my latest dating dilemma: the “breadcrumber.”
On a Wednesday evening in mid-October I go for drinks with a few girlfriends after work. “Boys and sex,” I had replied via text message when they asked why I wanted to meet. Naturally, they all agreed to it immediately.
I complain a lot about how shitty my love life is. Now that I’ve gone a full year with absolutely no progress being made in the relationship department though, I realized maybe it was time I got another perspective on this whole dating thing. Meet Frances, our newest contributor to STALK.
Instead of complaining about how clueless guys are on dating apps, we decided we should try to help them out. Consider it our charity work for 2016.
“U cute, what u do now?” he replied in broken English less than 3 seconds later.
See, I told you. They love me.
If there’s one thing I can’t resist, it’s the boy who ghosts. I can be totally uninterested in a guy at first, and then the second he stops messaging me I’m completely smitten. What is he doing right now? Is he texting other girls? Has he seen my messages? He’s suddenly the most interesting person on earth, and I’m obsessed. Clearly, I’m not alone here.
“So do you have a boyfriend?” a new acquaintance recently asked me. I almost choked on the piece of ice cream cake I had just shoved into my mouth. She looked at me, patiently awaiting my response.
“Sorry,” I laughed, “But I’m about as far away from having a boyfriend as a person can get.”
“I have a love-hate relationship with Tinder. It’s perfect for when I’m feeling down and need a little self validation by swiping right on every single guy and racking up a shit ton of matches. However, once they actually start messaging me I’m so turned off. “